Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Easter Traditions

Have you been wondering how to mark the season of Lent and the celebration of Easter in your family? Here are some fun ideas.

A hands-on idea for Palm Sunday from Catholic Icing: http://catholicicing.com/2012/03/palm-sunday-craft-for-kids/ (don't worry for all those non-crafty-types... this involves finger painting - anyone can do that!)



And here are some fun ideas to count down to Easter while learning about the character of God:

http://www.shauna-lynn.blogspot.com/2012/03/seeing-as-easter-is-just-around-corner.html


or some of the events and symbols leading to Easter:

http://deliacreates.blogspot.com/2011/04/12-days-of-easter.html


and some ideas for Easter traditions from Focus on the Family:
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/holidays/celebrating_the_easter_season.aspx


With Easter right around the corner, what are you doing to mark the holiday with your family?

Friday, March 23, 2012

Love and Logic - March 20

Thanks to Judy Lewis for sharing her insights on parenting with Love and Logic. Judy introduced several strategies for helping our children develop the ability to make decisions and deal with consequences for those decisions.

Key Points to Remember:
* Allow your children to make small mistakes when the price is small. (e.g. buy a cheap toy that will likely break v. when they are older and go to buy a car)
* Allow your children to make decisions for things that affect them. (e.g. wear a coat or carry it, whether or not they will eat) If it affects others, parents decide.
* Set clear expectations with logical, natural consequences specific to the behavior you want to change. (e.g. pour oatmeal on the dog, take the oatmeal away)
* Empathetic responses help the child to open his/her eyes, wondering, "What did I do?" rather than focusing on the parent's behavior, wondering, "What are you going to do?" When children are older, they will think "If I do x, it will affect me by..." rather than, "If my parents saw me, they'd be so mad."
* Anger and frustration fuels misbehavior.
* Repeated behaviors provide the child with something. Figure out how it is working for them and how to change it.

5 Steps to Dealing with Behaviors You Want to Change:
1) Uh-oh song. Jim Fay sings, "Uh-oh, looks like a little bedroom time is coming up here, so sad." Use this song for behaviors we don't like or haven't seen before. Singing allows us to remain calm.
2) Tell the child what they will do. As you lead them by the hand to the bedroom, "Here you are. Have a little fit. We'll see you when you're sweet."
3) Offer Choices. "Would you like the door opened or closed?"
4) Egg Timer. Once everything sounds calm, say, "I'll set the egg timer now and you can come out as soon as it goes off." This provides time to think and wish he/she is with the family.
5) Hug and let go. Life goes on. Don't explain it. Don't tell her why she's in there. Don't tell the other parent about it later.


See more tips, resources, podcasts and downloads on the Love and Logic website: www.loveandlogic.com and sign-up for their weekly reminders.

Click on the link to the right to hear Judy's presentation.