Thursday, December 12, 2019

Marisa Gronholz :: Advent - Waiting Like Mary

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What a blessing to have Marisa share her thoughts and teaching on Advent, specifically as a season of waiting like Mary did. The bad news - due to technical difficulties (ie. not pressing the correct buttons), the audio of Marisa's talk didn't get recorded. The good news - she shared her entire powerpoint with us that you can access by clicking on the image above! We hope it can be a resource and meditation for you as you walk through this Advent season!

Monday, December 2, 2019

Amber Zbitnoff :: Photography Tips

A special thanks to Amber of Amber Zbitnoff Photograpy for sharing some tips and tricks to consider when planning for or taking pictures! Below are notes from her talk:

What is the best time to take photos?
-The "golden hour" is 1-2 hours after sunrise or before sunset. This makes for pretty light that is more dynamic & interesting.

What should we wear?
-Start with one piece & work around it
-Think classic & timeless
-Plan ahead for comfort & movement
-Coordinate color, not matchy-matchy
-Keep patterns to a minimum (good rule of thumb is 1-2 pieces max with patterns)
-Textures are your friend (ie. sweaters give depth)
-Avoid all-black or all-white
-Avoid characters & logos
-Layers are helpful - they add interest and you can change your look just by taking off a layer
-Consider your location
-Visualize your photos on display and what look you're going for
-Most importantly, BE YOU!

How do I choose a location?
Thing to Consider:
-A place that has special meaning
-Your own home (especially good for newborn pictures)
-Pretty locations
-Consider where the photos will be displayed in your own home to help think of locations

How do I choose a photographer?
Things to Consider:
-What are my priorities? Thinking through the following can help you narrow down: style & aesthetic, friend referral & review, how many images you get to keep, turn around time, investment.

How much should I invest?
You get what you pay for. Normal range in Seattle is $300-$1,000. It's common to have a session fee plus certain add-ons (for example some photographers include a certain amount of files to keep while with others you add-on for files you want).
Consider the most important of budget, quality & time. You can usually get 2/3 in a photographer.

Taking photos yourself vs. Hiring a Photographer:
Yourself:
-You control what you get
-You don't have to schedule
-Can do multiple attempts
-Can take the pressure off

Photographer:
-Get to experience the time as a family
-You'll be in the photo as a participant
-You get a variety of images
-Have someone posing and looking out for the details
-Less work for you!

Amber's favorite locations in the Seattle area to take pictures include:
1. Arboretum
2. Magnuson Park
3. Carkeek Park
4. Juanita Bay Park (on the eastside)

Sunday, December 1, 2019

Carenet - Talking to kids about sexuality and healthy relationships

Catching up on MOPS speaker recaps. No audio to share from Carenet's speaker, but here are some notes to recap some of the wisdom shared:

While it can be awkward to talk openly to our kids, being the first word on the subject by doing so can have significant advantages. If we send the message to our kids that "we" as parents know about the subject, they won't just assume we don't and get information from each other, the internet, etc. Real information = better outcomes! 

Important steps to consider when broaching the topic:
1. Evaluate your frame of reference
2. Clarify your convictions
3. Teach what God says about sex
4. Challange your children to have a standard
5. Create a home that provides love, security & physical affection for your children

Tone & attitude are just as important as your words:
-Don't be the parent that is freaking out
-Don't pass on any "hang-ups" about sex
-Don't make sex weird or secretive
-Don't tell "tall tales" (stork, magic, etc)
-Don't lecture
-Don't plan one big talk
-Don't pass this on to someone else
-Don't think that only dads talk to sons
-KISS: Keep It Super Simple

Some breakdowns of when/what to talk to with our kids at certain ages:
Babies
Start when they're babies by naming body parts with them

Age 2-3
Introduce boundaries - ex: "there are times and places to be naked"
Privacy & body safety. Keep it simple by talking about things like closing door for privacy

Age 3-5
Kids are curious - peeping, exploring, playing dr, etc are healthy & normal ways of expressing this curiosity.
Teach about it not being approriate to touch others' private parts or for anyone else to touch yours

Age 4+
Talking with kids about how all living things produce can be a good frame of reference (dogs have babies, humans have babies, etc)
Making babies is for adults, not kids
Teach kids basic biology

Age 5-10 (+ other ages)
Limit screens & online time
Supervise internet use
Use filters
Keep internet use & computer in public areas
Talk about uncomfortable pictures that your kids may see online.

References suggested:
Books - Sex:
3-5 yrs - The Story of Me
5-8 yrs - Before I was Born
8-11 yrs - What's the Big Deal?
11-14 yrs - Facing the Facts
Parents -
How and When to Tell Your Kids About Sex
Mom, Dad...What's Sex?
How Babies are Made

Books - Body Safety:
Body Safety Education
God Made All of Me
Some Secrets Should Never be Kept
No Means No!
I Said No!

Books - Secrets, Separation Feelings, Anxiety:
Do You Have a Secret?
You Weren't With Me
Once I was Very Very Scared
A Terrible Thing Happened

Books - Pornography:
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures
Good Pictures, Bad Pictures Jr.

Books - Puberty:
Guy Stuff: the Body Book for Boys
Celebrate Your Body (and It's Changes, Too!): The Ultimate Puberty Book for Girls

Other Resources:
Risen Motherhood Podcast
Relatable Podcast (Allie Beth Stucky)
FamilyLife Today Website & Podcast
Article - Tim Challes: How to Teach Your Kids About Sex
Article - Got Questions: How Should a Christian View Sex Education?